To start off, I want to create a safe place for those who have had an abortion in the past. This post is in no way, shape or form intended to harm or shame you. Quite the opposite, in fact. I hope with everything that is in me that it emboldens you to speak up on your experience. We have all failed at things in life, I am 100% not perfect, and most of the time the things that we have been through and overcome tend to be our ministry to others. So please, feel free the breath here. You are fully loved.
To shed some light on the reason for this post, as of yesterday, I’ve read that NYC now allows non-doctors to perform abortions up until the mothers due date if the womans health is endangered or the fetus is not viable. I think the biggest reason for my upset was the fact that this law was signed into action over joyful smiles, applause and celebration.
Abortion should never be celebrated, whether pro-life or pro-choice. This issue is sad and tragic because a death is involved. There is absolutely no reason for applause. If a mother is making this decision, she is far from joyful. She is most likely hurting, scared, abused, diseased, exhausted, and the list goes on for reasons behind the choice. So why celebrate her pain? I just don’t understand the heart behind this. Has the conscience failed us?
Please don’t think that abortion is something I’m calling out as worse than any other sin, or any less forgivable. We are all guilty of anger, and Jesus says that such is the same as murder. (Matthew 5:21) Believe me, this is not something I like to talk about, but I feel like it needs to be. I’ve also committed sins that would go under people’s “Big Sins” list, but just because I have committed those and felt wrong about it, does not mean that I need to try and normalize it to make myself feel better. The guilt I felt proved I had a conscience, and knew the difference between right and wrong. A moral compass. When we start distorting that compass and try to make what tells you you’re “wrong” tell you you’re “right,” we’ve got a problem. The conscience is there for a reason… to help the world, not to hurt it. The more you let your conscience be muted, the harder your heart becomes.
Recently I read in Moral Revolution about a conversation Kris Vallaton had with a fellow passenger on a plane, who happened to be a liberal Jewish atheist, which the man pointed out after finding out Kris was a pastor. This didn’t keep Kris from talking to the man. They had even gotten into a conversation about their businesses and Kris gave the man some helpful advice which was taken quite gratefully. When the man realized they were agreeing on things, he stopped as if he felt bad that they were becoming friends and abruptly asked how Kris felt about abortion. Here’s how it went:
“Do you know how Hitler persuaded the German people to destroy more than six million of your Jewish ancestors?” The man looked at me unexpectantly, so I continued. “He convinced them that the Jews were not human and then exterminated your people like rats.” I could see that I had his attention, so I went on. “Do you know how Americans enslaved, tortured and killed millions of Africans? We dehumanized them so our constitution didn’t apply to them, and then we treated them worse than animals.”
“How about the Native Americans?” I pressed. “Do you have any idea how we managed to hunt Indians like wild animals, drive them out of their own land, burn their villages, rape their women and slaughter their children? Do you have any clue how everyday people turned into cruel murderers?” My Jewish friend was silent, and his eyes were filling with tears as I made my point. “We made people believe that the Native Americans were wild savages, not real human beings, an then we brutalized them without any conviction of wrongdoing! Now do you understand how we have persuaded mothers to kill their own babies? We took the word fetus, which is the Latin word for ‘offspring,’ and redefined it to dehumanize the unborn. We told mothers, ‘That is not really a baby you are carrying in your belly; it is a fetus, tissue that suddenly forms into a human being just seconds before it exits the womb! In doing so, we were able to assert that, in the issue of abortion, there is only one persons human rights to consider, and then we convinced mothers that disposing of fetal tissue – terminating the lives of their babies – was a woman’s right. Our constitution no longer protects the unborn because they are not real people. They are just lifeless blobs of tissue.” By now, tears were flowing down his cheeks. I looked right into his eyes and said, “Your people, the Native Americans and the African Americans should be the greatest defenders of the unborn on the planet. After all, you know what it’s like for society to redefine you so that they can destroy your races. But ironically, your races have the highest abortion rates in this country! Somebody is still trying to exterminate your people, and you don’t even realize it. The names have changed, but the plot remains the same!” Finally he couldn’t handle it anymore. He blurted out, “I have never heard anything like this before. I am hanging out with the wrong people. I have been deceived!”
Maybe you’ve never looked at abortion as anything more than “removing a blob of tissue,” but I promise you, that baby is worth more than that.
“You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so complex! Your workmanship is marvelous – how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed. How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered!” Psalm 139:13-17
God knows you before even one breath of oxygen entered your lungs. You were made for a purpose by a loving Creator. Your body is not just a blob of cells, you have an eternal soul in your very being. Deeming one of those souls unfit for life is taking more into our hands than we were ever meant to bare.
What it all boils down to is this… the abortion law would never have been put into effect if there was a church people today who addressed issues from a truly Biblical standpoint. Pro-choice people are not the only ones to blame here, and we shouldn’t be afraid to associate together. Division is a device of Satan, and we do not need to partake in it. If instead of condemning those mothers for their sins; making them feel the need to hide what they’ve done or get it “taken care of,” we would lovingly embrace them, offering them hope… how different would the world look? Because the thing is, there is ALWAYS hope, no matter the circumstance. There is hope for the mother who has already aborted and there is hope for the mother considering it. Instead of making them feel as though what’s inside of them is a disappointment, maybe we should represent the life, joy and excitement that children bring to our day! We could even offer them a home for their child!
We have to remember in our conversations that more people have experienced abortion than one might know. You never know what a person has experienced, and we must be a people of love and compassion. I love my friend, Kerri’s, testimony,
“One in four women have had one and they are most likely not on the other side of healing like me, and when they see these messages, being called a murderer, it can push her away from Jesus, not towards Him. His kindness leads us to repentance. He doesn’t shame, name call, or accuse. He’s loving. Be His loving kindness to the world.”
Maybe, just maybe, it’s your turn to speak up from your experience. Shed light on the true feelings and emotions behind abortion. What are some things people could change to bring about a better option? I’m all ears and value your opinion. Girls/Women need to know what their decision can affect in the long run. They need to know the weigh of the conscientious choice.
Again, if you’re reading this and have had an abortion, or are pro-choice… I still love you. I understand there are reasons behind your decisions and beliefs. You are not any “less than” myself. I just hurt for these babies and want to try to find a different solution. What would these children say if they could speak? Are we willing to listen?
Verses on HOPE:
“Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.” Isaiah 41:10
“So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the LORD your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you.” Deut. 31:6
“The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.” I Corin. 10:13
“Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me. That’s why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” II Corin. 12:9-10
“For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” II Timothy 1:7
“He gives power to the weak and strength to the powerless.” Isaiah 40:29
“My health may fail, and my spirit may grow weak, but God remains the strength of my heart; he is mine forever.” Psalm 73:26
“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever!” I Corin. 13:4-8
Verses on FORGIVENESS:
“He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west.” Psalm 103:12
“He is so rich in kindness and grace that he purchased our freedom with the blood of his Son and forgave our sins.” Ephesians 1:7
“He is so rich in kindness and grace that he purchased our freedom with the blood of his Son and forgave our sins.” I John 1:9
“But the Lord our God is merciful and forgiving, even though we have rebelled against him.” Daniel 9:9
““Come now, let’s settle this,” says the LORD . “Though your sins are like scarlet, I will make them as white as snow. Though they are red like crimson, I will make them as white as wool.” Isaiah 1:18
““Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn others, or it will all come back against you. Forgive others, and you will be forgiven.” Luke 6:37
“Then Peter came to him and asked, “Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?” “No, not seven times,” Jesus replied, “but seventy times seven!” Matthew 18:21-22
“And do everything with love.”
I Corinthians 16:14